[Diane]

Hello friends
God has me in a bit of a transition. I have gone back to working with deaf children for the local school district and did so with high hopes of adding some "return to the ways of a child" joy back into my soul. 
I was initially thrilled with the staff that surrounds me.. they literally said "Please pick out a desk, we really want to have you!" when I first visited. Yet its been two weeks and I am struggling with just who people are these days. 

While I was eating lunch yesterday a coworker came to show me a photo of she and her partner. They were enjoying dinner on a charcuterie board however as she pointed out (and God forgive me) it was a "C--- cuterie board".. The board itself was carved in the shape of a mans privates. I am not the person to show that to. I am still disgusted. 
Earlier in the week the lead teacher showed me a series of photos from her daughters birthday party. The ENTIRE party was done in the poo emoji theme. Believe me when I tell you... from the cake to the plungers with the pinata.

I just cant. I want to just check out of this current culture! I hate being the uptight old lady! I dont want these friends and I find that I dont want ANY of these friends. When I volunteered the other night for Compassion International I didnt even talk to the women. I just went off on my own so I feel myself giving up on meeting decent people. 

Rant over. Thank God for our tiny group. I dont see any of you throwing poo themed parties. Please take me back to 1923. 

  charcuterie board 

[RedheadMN]

Ah, hmmm.

I think the only thing to do is be the example of what decency is about in your actions and words.

I might have said, or just left alone, "I'm not interest in this, don't want to hear about this."

I recently was in a position to say to a young family member, an adult, "I don't want to hear that again.  Those are not the actions of a lady."  That worked in my situation, not likely in others.

Again, hmmmmmmmmmm.

[Diane]

Ah, hmmm.

I think the only thing to do is be the example of what decency is about in your actions and words.

I might have said, or just left alone, "I'm not interest in this, don't want to hear about this."

I recently was in a position to say to a young family member, an adult, "I don't want to hear that again.  Those are not the actions of a lady."  That worked in my situation, not likely in others.

Again, hmmmmmmm

You are right. I should have said "I am not the person to show this to". 
This morning I find myself just heartbroken as I watch people battle about abortion. The world is a cold place for warm hearts. We are at war and can only find what we need in the Lord. But it is hard to want human connection so badly and find it so unsafe!

[William St. Guthlac]

I have said many times, here, and back on CM, that I detest this age and this culture.

It calls itself, "Western Civilization" when in fact it is neither thing. It is an enemy. If you are not resisting it, you are helping it.

You won't be able to fix this. The only reason to stay would be to insure there is no overt, provable abuse of the children by these depraved people. In such a case you would be able to be a first reporter. If you want to discuss offline we can. This is a part of my wheelhouse.

Otherwise you should shake the dust from your feet. They will pull you down. There are other ways to help. To be uplifted.

[susanb]

I have said many times, here, and back on CM, that I detest this age and this culture.

It calls itself, "Western Civilization" when in fact it is neither thing. It is an enemy. If you are not resisting it, you are helping it.

You won't be able to fix this. The only reason to stay would be to insure there is no overt, provable abuse of the children by these depraved people. In such a case you would be able to be a first reporter. If you want to discuss offline we can. This is a part of my wheelhouse.

Otherwise you should shake the dust from your feet. They will pull you down. There are other ways to help. To be uplifted.

---

I just read a recent post by Noam Chomsky and I am even more scared than you folks

[Diane]

I have said many times, here, and back on CM, that I detest this age and this culture.

It calls itself, "Western Civilization" when in fact it is neither thing. It is an enemy. If you are not resisting it, you are helping it.

You won't be able to fix this. The only reason to stay would be to insure there is no overt, provable abuse of the children by these depraved people. In such a case you would be able to be a first reporter. If you want to discuss offline we can. This is a part of my wheelhouse.

Otherwise you should shake the dust from your feet. They will pull you down. There are other ways to help. To be uplifted.

Thank you. I needed the like minded reply. I am going to stay because of the children. I have a little boy from Mexico that is 11 and knows three words. Three. I can watch the light bulbs coming in. I need the children as badly as they need me. I am still the CAD designer and jeweler like you... but after losing some hearing God sent me here. I know it. 
I just have to avoid all the adults. I know why you found your wife overseas. If I were a man I would too. This country is so sick!

---

I have said many times, here, and back on CM, that I detest this age and this culture.

It calls itself, "Western Civilization" when in fact it is neither thing. It is an enemy. If you are not resisting it, you are helping it.

You won't be able to fix this. The only reason to stay would be to insure there is no overt, provable abuse of the children by these depraved people. In such a case you would be able to be a first reporter. If you want to discuss offline we can. This is a part of my wheelhouse.

Otherwise you should shake the dust from your feet. They will pull you down. There are other ways to help. To be uplifted.

---

I just read a recent post by Noam Chomsky and I am even more scared than you folks

Susan??

[susanb]

I have said many times, here, and back on CM, that I detest this age and this culture.

It calls itself, "Western Civilization" when in fact it is neither thing. It is an enemy. If you are not resisting it, you are helping it.

You won't be able to fix this. The only reason to stay would be to insure there is no overt, provable abuse of the children by these depraved people. In such a case you would be able to be a first reporter. If you want to discuss offline we can. This is a part of my wheelhouse.

Otherwise you should shake the dust from your feet. They will pull you down. There are other ways to help. To be uplifted.

Thank you. I needed the like minded reply. I am going to stay because of the children. I have a little boy from Mexico that is 11 and knows three words. Three. I can watch the light bulbs coming in. I need the children as badly as they need me. I am still the CAD designer and jeweler like you... but after losing some hearing God sent me here. I know it. 
I just have to avoid all the adults. I know why you found your wife overseas. If I were a man I would too. This country is so sick!

---

---

I just read a recent post by Noam Chomsky and I am even more scared than you folks

Susan??

---

just the awful reality of the world these days......

my deaf son has made 8 cooking videos in asl
[the techie guy who was paid to edit them for us
is the one who is suing me]

time to immerse myself and sent them out again to the deaf schools in north
america....I send them out a couple of years ago and got not a single reply
to 25 I sent....I though some would enjoy/use them

[Diane]

Thank you. I needed the like minded reply. I am going to stay because of the children. I have a little boy from Mexico that is 11 and knows three words. Three. I can watch the light bulbs coming in. I need the children as badly as they need me. I am still the CAD designer and jeweler like you... but after losing some hearing God sent me here. I know it. 
I just have to avoid all the adults. I know why you found your wife overseas. If I were a man I would too. This country is so sick!

---

Susan??

---

just the awful reality of the world these days......

my deaf son has made 8 cooking videos in asl
[the techie guy who was paid to edit them for us
is the one who is suing me]

time to immerse myself and sent them out again to the deaf schools in north
america....I send them out a couple of years ago and got not a single reply
to 25  I sent....I though some would enjoy/use them

Deaf culture is a uniqie thing as I am sure you know. I would imagine they would have had to be follow some protical so dont feel bad. Just be PROUD that he made them!

[ezdays]

Diane, you are perfectly in the right to be offended, it really sets the tone for how you interact with your peers, and that's not a good thing. How to overcome that without jeopardizing your position is difficult at best. They may eventually catch on after a while...  I wish you the best in your new position and with dealing with these twisted-minded people. 

It is very difficult in the workplace to tell co-workers just how you feel about things like this. It sets up a toxic environment where you are now on the outside and possibly wrongfully attacked. I understand that you don't have to accept their way of life, but out and out rejecting or reporting them is extremely difficult. When we had our business, my wife ran the assembly area and she would tell me how frequently some of the girls would openly discuss their prancing around after hours. One time we hired a very attractive woman, and she joined us for our regular Friday after work beer get-together. I felt extremely uncomfortable, as did some of the other men, just being around her the way she talked about herself and her husband. She left with one of our techs, neither lasted long as employees, it was hard to keep them on after the way they acted. They may have been good in the bedroom, but not in the assembly room. These things happened over 30 years ago, well into the "sexual revolution". Our job was to make sure they did what they were hired to do, and it was uneasy for us to engage in their after-hour activities.

I just mentioned elsewhere about the cartoons the kids see today. They talk about the older cartoons being violent, yet today's junk are full of violence, sex and fantasy far beyond the Bugs Bunny and roadrunner cartoons. I'm appalled at what kids are being taught in schools today, they can graduate without knowing how to add or fill out a job application, yet they are well educated on transvestites, homosexuality and how to intimately please their sexual partner. Things that are well beyond the scope of what our schools are suppose to be teaching. I remember when you were a teenager before your parents told you the "facts of life". You knew a lot of that already, but they didn't know that. Now the bar for kids is so low they have no fear of tripping, yet those who are morally straight are shunned for their beliefs.

[Stargazer186k]

Unfortunately the indecency of such things is lost on many as that emoji is easily accessible and used often by kids & even adults too...and that board is probably easily purchased at online retailers. Every once in a while I stumble across something while shopping online and find myself thinking. "I can't believer they sell this here!". Just in the past couple of days I saw two commercials on TV and thought "Is there no decency left? Did they just advertise that on tv?"   So I guess to some it all seems perfectly normal. Here we are in 2024. How different things were even just 20 - 25 years ago.

I do still think there are lots of people who see what's wrong with such things.  It sounds like you're having a good experience working with the kids, and I would agree with you that makes it worth doing.

[Diane]

Diane, you are perfectly in the right to be offended, it really sets the tone for how you interact with your peers, and that's not a good thing. How to overcome that without jeopardizing your position is difficult at best. They may eventually catch on after a while...  I wish you the best in your new position and with dealing with these twisted-minded people. 

It is very difficult in the workplace to tell co-workers just how you feel about things like this. It sets up a toxic environment where you are now on the outside and possibly wrongfully attacked. I understand that you don't have to accept their way of life, but out and out rejecting or reporting them is extremely difficult. When we had our business, my wife ran the assembly area and she would tell me how frequently some of the girls would openly discuss their prancing around after hours. One time we hired a very attractive woman, and she joined us for our regular Friday after work beer get-together. I felt extremely uncomfortable, as did some of the other men, just being around her the way she talked about herself and her husband. She left with one of our techs, neither lasted long as employees, it was hard to keep them on after the way they acted. They may have been good in the bedroom, but not in the assembly room. These things happened over 30 years ago, well into the "sexual revolution". Our job was to make sure they did what they were hired to do, and it was uneasy for us to engage in their after-hour activities.

I just mentioned elsewhere about the cartoons the kids see today. They talk about the older cartoons being violent, yet today's junk are full of violence, sex and fantasy far beyond the Bugs Bunny and roadrunner cartoons. I'm appalled at what kids are being taught in schools today, they can graduate without knowing how to add or fill out a job application, yet they are well educated on transvestites, homosexuality and how to intimately please their sexual partner. Things that are well beyond the scope of what our schools are suppose to be teaching. I remember when you were a teenager before your parents told you the "facts of life". You knew a lot of that already, but they didn't know that. Now the bar for kids is so low they have no fear of tripping, yet those who are morally straight are shunned for their beliefs.

Don, it has not taken long to be in absolute shock when it comes to what the kids themselves are saying. They are learning it somewhere! This same teacher with the "meat tray" spews very personal medical (female issues) at staff breakfast so I think I am in for a long haul. The other two teachers in my room are... drum roll... married to each other! So a very unstable management situation as one is the head. 

Smashes head on desk. 
I just have to rise above. 
Friday I baked a tiny bundt cake for the woman I DO find to be decent. She tends to isolate ... the other day she left me banana bread when I forgot my lunch (I was catching ducks at 7am from the hurricane).
Anyway I baked a tiny bundt with blueberries and blue pea butterfly vine edible flowers, put it in a white box with tissues and covered it with flowers. Thus... as time goes on they may recognize a difference in behavior from S*** Emoji cake and a little fancier. 

The world has gone insane!

---

Unfortunately the indecency of such things is lost on many as that emoji is easily accessible and used often by kids & even adults too...and that board is probably easily purchased at online retailers. Every once in a while I stumble across something while shopping online and find myself thinking. "I can't believer they sell this here!". Just in the past couple of days I saw two commercials on TV and thought "Is there no decency left? Did they just advertise that on tv?"   So I guess to some it all seems perfectly normal. Here we are in 2024. How different things were even just 20 - 25 years ago.

I do still think there are lots of people who see what's wrong with such things.  It sounds like you're having a good experience working with the kids, and I would agree with you that makes it worth doing.

Yes, The kids are the reason I am there. I dont know why I keep expecting things to be different though. Its been 20 or more years in Florida and I havent met the nice people yet. I kinda thought I did but it just hits all new lows all the time. I would think SCHOOL would be safe? 
I have never been one for bathroom like humor so I just dont get it? People are certainly entertained however! Wow wow wow....
I hope there is an apocalypse that sends kids searching for better than their parents behaved some days. Maybe this stuff will go the way of the beanie baby and disappear.

[ezdays]

Don, it has not taken long to be in absolute shock when it comes to what the kids themselves are saying. They are learning it somewhere! This same teacher with the "meat tray" spews very personal medical (female issues) at staff breakfast so I think I am in for a long haul. The other two teachers in my room are... drum roll... married to each other! So a very unstable management situation as one is the head. 

Smashes head on desk. 
I just have to rise above. 
Friday I baked a tiny bundt cake for the woman I DO find to be decent. She tends to isolate ... the other day she left me banana bread when I forgot my lunch (I was catching ducks at 7am from the hurricane).
Anyway I baked a tiny bundt with blueberries and blue pea butterfly vine edible flowers, put it in a white box with tissues and covered it with flowers. Thus... as time goes on they may recognize a difference in behavior from S*** Emoji cake and a little fancier. 

The world has gone insane!

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Yes, insane and many adults are to blame, like you say, the kids learn it somewhere. One of our assembly women told my wife how her and her boyfriend would lay naked on the couch watching TV with the kids. They were under covers of course, but how could not the kids know. When a man dressed like a woman and had false boobs that hung down to his waist and was still allowed to teach was not only grossly inappropriate, but should be illegal. Teachers fired for refusing to use the correct pronoun of choice, men allowed in women's restrooms and locker rooms just because they identify as female.  No children should be exposed to this nonsense. I'm sure we all have examples we can quote, these are just a few of mine. When I was going to school, our teacher's lives were truly separate from their personal ones, not so today, not with Facebook and other social media. What a surprise when you find your teacher is into porn on weekends.

That's my rant for the day....

[Diane]

Don

Nobody can say anything about your memory Don! You recall stories better than I do! Thank you for the replies. I feel myself again after a Saturday rant and some catch up work. Time in your own head and avoiding everyone elses is a cure all!

[ezdays]

Don

Nobody can say anything about your memory Don! You recall stories better than I do! Thank you for the replies. I feel myself again after a Saturday rant and some catch up work. Time in your own head and avoiding everyone elses is a cure all!

Good that you found a way to deal with this, we all need to deal with these situations in our own way. My wife was their boss and really didn't know how to react. Her solution was to talk to me and relieve her concerns. You have to decide how these things affect you. I still remember that one-sentence sermon by our young priest back in the 90's, "What are you going to do today to show that you are a Christian?" And he walked away, amazing isn't it? I think about that sentence frequently when the need occurs, that's my way of confronting these situations. Causing a ruckus by confronting these people is not Christian and can only jeopardize your position at work. They may not even be aware that these things are abnormal and sinful for many folks. Remember the discussion I started on CM a while back, "are you committing a sin if you don't know what you're doing is a sin?" My point is that this way of living just might cause God to get upset and cause action to those that willingly do what they know is wrong, but in the meantime you or I can do little to change how these people think.

Know that they are wrong, do not let it get you upset. Just pray that someday these folks will change the way they behave, and realize how they affect others, especially the younger generation.

As for my memory, I thank God daily for allowing me to remain as physically and mentally well as I am for my age. I do feel blessed.

[Jericho]

Hello friends
God has me in a bit of a transition. I have gone back to working with deaf children for the local school district and did so with high hopes of adding some "return to the ways of a child" joy back into my soul. 
I was initially thrilled with the staff that surrounds me.. they literally said "Please pick out a desk, we really want to have you!" when I first visited. Yet its been two weeks and I am struggling with just who people are these days. 

While I was eating lunch yesterday a coworker came to show me a photo of she and her partner. They were enjoying dinner on a charcuterie board however as she pointed out (and God forgive me) it was a "C--- cuterie board".. The board itself was carved in the shape of a mans privates. I am not the person to show that to. I am still disgusted. 
Earlier in the week the lead teacher showed me a series of photos from her daughters birthday party. The ENTIRE party was done in the poo emoji theme. Believe me when I tell you... from the cake to the plungers with the pinata.

I just cant. I want to just check out of this current culture! I hate being the uptight old lady! I dont want these friends and I find that I dont want ANY of these friends. When I volunteered the other night for Compassion International I didnt even talk to the women. I just went off on my own so I feel myself giving up on meeting decent people. 

Rant over. Thank God for our tiny group. I dont see any of you throwing poo themed parties. Please take me back to 1923. 

  charcuterie board 

"They were enjoying dinner on a charcuterie board however as she pointed out (and God forgive me) it was a "C--- cuterie board".. The board itself was carved in the shape of a mans privates. I am not the person to show that to. I am still disgusted. "

You had every right to be disgusted Diane. I am also disgusted by this Satanic Hellish mockery. Satan wants to dismantle God's Sacraments including the Sacrament of Marriage.


Thank God for our tiny group. I dont see any of you throwing poo themed parties.

I am glad you are apart of CatholicHangout where there are no poo themed parties

[April Maccabees]

Unfortunately, the workplace is not the place to find friends. It is a rarity if you can find a trustworthy and virtuous coworker.

My coworker was sharing a story about how her three year old daughter repeated the F bomb after hearing it from her mommy while watching a football game. My coworker told her daughter, "Can you not say that word?" Daughter said, "But Mommy says it!"

The intended audience for that story all laughed and think that my coworker is super cool and "nice." I would disagree with both assessments.

I wanna know: How do you not know that kids repeat whatever they hear from their parents and peers? When did it become acceptable and "cool" to speak coarse and vulgar words?

[Doug1979]

The main problem is that the vast majority of the children are being raised by their technology and becoming the next set of parents. "As long as the kid is content, I will not bother knowing what they are actually doing". The "hands free" kids are bringing what they learn to school or other social activities and the other kids hearing the freedom begin wondering why they are being "restricted". When going through their "rebellious" age, there is a need to be more involved in their life with conversations of why things can be seen as insulting to others and why all should strive for the golden rule. 

I believe that we also need to do more activities (hopefully everyday) that do not involve electronics, to give everyone a chance to see how good life can be without needing to be constantly in connection with electronic devices. I recently had a conversation with my teenage nephew about how I spent the summer months without any communication with the majority of the people I hung out with at school. And even the ones I managed to get together with over the summer, was only for a couple of times (I lived out in the rural area on the border of the school district). He was afraid that if he did not keep up with them then they would stop being his friends. I told him that they will not stop being your friend if you didn't answer because you were out doing something with your family such as eating dinner or taking a walk. This is kind of hard to do because most of the conversations when I am around are catching-up on things from when we last met. I can understand the kids finding most of the conversation uninteresting (they only want to contribute to certain parts). 

I do not like cursing/swearing, and one time to prove a point I started using curse and swear words in the general conversation with a group of friends. After about five minutes one friend asked me what was wrong, and I told them that I was just talking the way they do around me. All of them had bewildered looks on their face and said I was becoming scary (the timing was not long after the Columbine shootings, so there may have been some of that fear in them). I did get them to tone it down around me but know that they probably still talk as before most of the time. I know I have asked many as to why they are using such language, only to be met with "it's cool" or "everybody talks this way" (then why is it so scary when I do [I know it was because I don't curse and me cursing must be the signal of the end of the world is happening right now]).

[April Maccabees]

Speaking of "preferred" pronouns, I started to see the following disclaimer in medical notes since January of 2024:

Documentation for this chart was dictated and transcribed using dictation system.
Dictation errors, grammatical errors, and incorrect pronouns may have occurred during the electronic transcription process.

Patients can also now add their "preferred" pronouns to their medical record.

The purpose of medicine is to objectively diagnose ailments and illnesses - deviations from normal anatomy and physiology - NOT what is socially "correct" and expedient.

[ezdays]

Speaking of "preferred" pronouns, I started to see the following disclaimer in medical notes since January of 2024:

Documentation for this chart was dictated and transcribed using dictation system.
Dictation errors, grammatical errors, and incorrect pronouns may have occurred during the electronic transcription process.

Patients can also now add their "preferred" pronouns to their medical record.

The purpose of medicine is to objectively diagnose ailments and illnesses - deviations from normal anatomy and physiology - NOT what is socially "correct" and expedient.

Bingo!!! I was filling out a form for a new doctor and had a choice, "Male", "Female", "Something else" so we no longer have two genders. I also saw "Gender declared at birth", meaning you can declare something else if you please. No one should be allowed to change their birth certificate just because they want to be a different gender, yet there are laws being discussed to do just that.

[enchantmentadm]

The above examples are disgusting. It seems that we have eliminated all boundaries that used to keep people safe. It is like the game of Jenga. Eventually, the last block will be removed and the whole thing (i.e,, Western Civilization) will come tumbling down. The Broadway show (1957) and movie (1961) "West Side Story" had a song called "Officer Krupke." The writer of the song wanted to be the first to drop the F-bomb. But saner heads prevailed. Instead, the stand-in "Krup you" was used. Today, it is hard to find a movie that does not use the F-bomb. Maybe, there is hope. Movies in the 1920s were terrible. Someone at a talk I attended mentioned a movie with Mae West, which he described as "risque even by today's standards." The Catholic Legion of Decency cleaned things up. One would hope that this could happen again.