[James]

I get maybe three views per year and 1 or two messages which are removed by admin

Sounds as if they continue to have a problem with scammers

I'm.pretty sure I was viewed by one the other day.

She was removed quick smart.

[MaryAlice]

Probsbly too many members complaining about unhinged moderation.

[Greenfields]

Not on there ,and haven’t regretted leaving.While it was lovely to meet many through the forums when they were up and running ,I think the negatives outweighed the positives.

I would join full of hope ,good self esteem and bit by bit being on CM would corrode that

Recently I’ve looked into both my ‘annulments ‘, both were listed on the grounds of lack of discretion.
My local diocese marriage tribunal office that I contacted replied at the end of the day saying she would look on computer the next day ,but said there wasn’t really any need as that she knew with certainty it would be ‘lack of discretion’ as that is what she always put .Then she added ..”We were young, we made mistakes ”.
    I wish it were years ago and there was more certainty :/
Both marriages were overseas , I don’t know if things were thoroughly investigated in Ethiopia .

Anyway, I feel a sense of peace in not searching for a significant other ,it’s nice

[enchantmentadm]

My CM subscription auto-renewed a few days ago. So I guess I am stuck with them for another year. I realize this was a voluntary act. I could have taken off my credit card information, which would have prevented the auto-renew. But I can't help but have a little buyer's remorse. Every time, I say that this renewal will be the last one. I have been saying this for years. Maybe it is good that I still have some hope. But when is hope a false hope? I am more and more convinced that if there is a right person for me, she is not in my current location. I am praying about whether I should shoot the moon and go for something long distance. Perhaps I could participate in more Relate events and see what happens. I have tried long distance on and off and have had worse results with that than I have locally. I have intensely mixed feelings about CM. It is the only dating site I have had any results with at all. But to echo the song, I still can't find what I'm looking for.

[enchantmentadm]

Of course, it's a mistake to put all of your eggs in one basket. There is the National Catholic Singles Conference, which is in Denver this year. It is about a six or seven hour drive for me. NCSC also has virtual activities, similar to CM Relate, which I have not taken advantage of. There is one tonight but unfortunately I have a conflict. I am also considering subscribing to another dating site, although my success rate on sites other than CM have been extremely poor.

[MaryAlice]

My CM subscription auto-renewed a few days ago. So I guess I am stuck with them for another year. I realize this was a voluntary act. I could have taken off my credit card information, which would have prevented the auto-renew. But I can't help but have a little buyer's remorse. Every time, I say that this renewal will be the last one. I have been saying this for years. Maybe it is good that I still have some hope. But when is hope a false hope? I am more and more convinced that if there is a right person for me, she is not in my current location. I am praying about whether I should shoot the moon and go for something long distance. Perhaps I could participate in more Relate events and see what happens. I have tried long distance on and off and have had worse results with that than I have locally.  I have intensely mixed feelings about CM. It is the only dating site I have had any results with at all. But to echo the song, I still can't find what I'm looking for.

Armand,

More than 6 months ago, when my CM subscription was due to expire (and I had written Admin to remind them that I had asked to have the "auto renewal" turned off), they renewed my subscription anyway!!!    So I wrote Admin again, and told them that I had requested that the "auto renewal" be turned off, and asked for a full refund.  They refunded me, but the aggravation with their completely ignoring my request was a little unsettling.  My current subscription expires late next week; and 4+/- months ago, I wrote them to turn off the "auto renewal"; so I'll be watching to see if they do or don't automatically renew my subscription.  I've had enough.  Of late, I've been spending a lot more time in my sewing room doing something a lot more productive, and outside walking, instead of sitting like a lump on a log in front of the computer screen (ugh   ). I spend more than enough time at the computer at work... don't need nor want to spend more hours at the computer at home.

Also, back in January or February, while attending a Catholic Singles Rosary zoom presentation, the guest speaker (don't remember her name) mentioned that if you're not seeing / meeting anyone at your current church, go to another church (there's no law against doing so).  So back in March, I returned to the Byzantine Rite church, located a lot closer to where I live than the other more traditional Roman Rite church ... AND though it's a smaller congregation, they're extremely more open, friendly, warm, and welcoming, and many have been asking me how I've been doing (when I first came down here to Columbus from Cleveland years ago, it was this Byzantine Rite church which was recommended to me; so went there for about 5 years, but became a bit 'homesick' for the Latin Rite church).  All that said, there's a gent here (at the Byzantine Rite church) who's still single as far as I know.  I've asked some friends to corroborate this, his brother and sister-in-law are parishioners there, too; and have also asked a few of them to help with an introduction.  (I still don't have the nerve to walk up to this (or any) man, introduce myself, and strike up a conversation; partly because he's talking with others (in the social hall after Divine Liturgy), and I was taught from very young not to interrupt others.  Was also taught that a lady waits .... hence the arranging of an introduction.  We shall see what happens.

With that, is there another Catholic church nearby you where you could go to see a different "pool" of women?  This is what that guest speaker was encouraging us to do... go somewhere else.  Also, let as many of your friends and family know that you're looking for someone.  It was the guest speaker's contention that people always love to fix up (meddle   ) in others' lives ... especially if they're seemingly happily married.

Your idea of attending the CM Relate events is a good idea; I've been attending some of them; but have grown bored with them; because even though they all SAY you're not alone, I really AM alone, sitting in front of a computer screen, going nowhere.  I'm looking forward to meeting the gent this coming Sunday at church.

Here's wishing you a very Happy Easter Week, Armand ... and hope you find your match as soon as possible 

[enchantmentadm]

My CM subscription auto-renewed a few days ago. So I guess I am stuck with them for another year. I realize this was a voluntary act. I could have taken off my credit card information, which would have prevented the auto-renew. But I can't help but have a little buyer's remorse. Every time, I say that this renewal will be the last one. I have been saying this for years. Maybe it is good that I still have some hope. But when is hope a false hope? I am more and more convinced that if there is a right person for me, she is not in my current location. I am praying about whether I should shoot the moon and go for something long distance. Perhaps I could participate in more Relate events and see what happens. I have tried long distance on and off and have had worse results with that than I have locally.  I have intensely mixed feelings about CM. It is the only dating site I have had any results with at all. But to echo the song, I still can't find what I'm looking for.

Armand,

More than 6 months ago, when my CM subscription was due to expire (and I had written Admin to remind them that I had asked to have the "auto renewal" turned off), they renewed my subscription anyway!!!    So I wrote Admin again, and told them that I had requested that the "auto renewal" be turned off, and asked for a full refund.  They refunded me, but the aggravation with their completely ignoring my request was a little unsettling.  My current subscription expires late next week; and 4+/- months ago, I wrote them to turn off the "auto renewal"; so I'll be watching to see if they do or don't automatically renew my subscription.  I've had enough.  Of late, I've been spending a lot more time in my sewing room doing something a lot more productive, and outside walking, instead of sitting like a lump on a log in front of the computer screen (ugh   ). I spend more than enough time at the computer at work... don't need nor want to spend more hours at the computer at home.

Also, back in January or February, while attending a Catholic Singles Rosary zoom presentation, the guest speaker (don't remember her name) mentioned that if you're not seeing / meeting anyone at your current church, go to another church (there's no law against doing so).  So back in March, I returned to the Byzantine Rite church, located a lot closer to where I live than the other more traditional Roman Rite church ... AND though it's a smaller congregation, they're extremely more open, friendly, warm, and welcoming, and many have been asking me how I've been doing (when I first came down here to Columbus from Cleveland years ago, it was this Byzantine Rite church which was recommended to me; so went there for about 5 years, but became a bit 'homesick' for the Latin Rite church).  All that said, there's a gent here (at the Byzantine Rite church) who's still single as far as I know.  I've asked some friends to corroborate this, his brother and sister-in-law are parishioners there, too; and have also asked a few of them to help with an introduction.  (I still don't have the nerve to walk up to this (or any) man, introduce myself, and strike up a conversation; partly because he's talking with others (in the social hall after Divine Liturgy), and I was taught from very young not to interrupt others.  Was also taught that a lady waits .... hence the arranging of an introduction.  We shall see what happens.

With that, is there another Catholic church nearby you where you could go to see a different "pool" of women?  This is what that guest speaker was encouraging us to do... go somewhere else.  Also, let as many of your friends and family know that you're looking for someone.  It was the guest speaker's contention that people always love to fix up (meddle   ) in others' lives ... especially if they're seemingly happily married.

Your idea of attending the CM Relate events is a good idea; I've been attending some of them; but have grown bored with them; because even though they all SAY you're not alone, I really AM alone, sitting in front of a computer screen, going nowhere.  I'm looking forward to meeting the gent this coming Sunday at church.

Here's wishing you a very Happy Easter Week, Armand ... and hope you find your match as soon as possible 

Thanks. Mary Alice. I can understand your frustration. My understanding is that websites that have subscriptions with auto-renewal are legally obligated to provide simple, easy-to-use mechanisms to defeat the auto-renewal. It appears that CM may not complying with the law. It is interesting that it was very easy to defeat the auto-renewal on Zoosk, Catholic Chemistry, and e-Harmony. 

This came up on a thread here a few months ago. I cannot remember where or when. So you will have to run a search. I vaguely remember someone saying that the way to defeat the auto-renewal on CM is simply to delete your credit card information. This way, they will not have a card to charge it to. You may want to do this in case they "forget" to turn off the auto-renewal again.

I go to different Catholic churches here but have not had much luck finding prospects there. I think it might help to join a group where you run into the same people all the time. We have a Byzantine parish, which I visit from time to time. In fact, I was just there for Good Friday and went three times during Lent for the Friday night "pre-sanctified" service. The liturgy is beautiful and it is warmer and friendlier than most Latin rite parishes. However, it is mostly families with young children. I am glad some people are having babies but I feel I would stand out like a sore thumb there being single if I joined the parish.

I have had friends who have tried to "fix me up." Unfortunately, the last two were fallen away Catholics, the first one an an atheist and the second an evangelical. I am still friends with the latter but I do not see her as a dating and marriage prospect because of the religious difference and the unannulled divorce.

I certainly understand the feeling of being alone, which is even worse when you see no end in sight. I cannot resolve the paradox of feeling alone while knowing that there are so many of us who are in the same boat.

Thanks again, Mary Alice. I hope your meeting with the gentleman goes well this Sunday. I wish you a very blessed Easter week and season as well.

[Diane]

How nice to see all these familiar faces. It has been too long. Some months back I gutted my office and in that effort lost my daily hangout for my desktop which is where I typically chatted with all of you. Missing Don so dearly. And missing all of like minded you. The world and its hatred for our beliefs gets more and more dismall all the time it seems. I am glad I stopped by. 

I turned off my auto renew on CM and dont pay any attention to it. 

What have I missed around here? Anyone have happy news?

[susanb]

How nice to see all these familiar faces. It has been too long. Some months back I gutted my office and in that effort lost my daily hangout for my desktop which is where I typically chatted with all of you. Missing Don so dearly. And missing all of like minded you. The world and its hatred for our beliefs gets more and more dismall all the time it seems. I am glad I stopped by. 

I turned off my auto renew on CM and dont pay any attention to it. 

What have I missed around here? Anyone have happy news?

people seem very friendly, prayerful and supportive over here........good to see you

[enchantmentadm]

How nice to see all these familiar faces. It has been too long. Some months back I gutted my office and in that effort lost my daily hangout for my desktop which is where I typically chatted with all of you. Missing Don so dearly. And missing all of like minded you. The world and its hatred for our beliefs gets more and more dismall all the time it seems. I am glad I stopped by. 

I turned off my auto renew on CM and dont pay any attention to it. 

What have I missed around here? Anyone have happy news?

Welcome back, Diane.

[William St. Guthlac]

How nice to see all these familiar faces. It has been too long. Some months back I gutted my office and in that effort lost my daily hangout for my desktop which is where I typically chatted with all of you. Missing Don so dearly. And missing all of like minded you. The world and its hatred for our beliefs gets more and more dismall all the time it seems. I am glad I stopped by. 

I turned off my auto renew on CM and dont pay any attention to it. 

What have I missed around here? Anyone have happy news?

I miss Don too. We talked a lot about life and scale modeling. I would love to talk to him about shooting right now. Planning on a purchase and would enjoy his perspective. Lost my dear downstairs neighbor shortly after we lost Don. She was a tough old bird and I was stunned when she passed very quickly. Very kind and very outspoken. She had been a novitiate and got all the way to the final vows with the Congregation of the Sisters of St Joseph and decided, nope - she wanted a family and children, kids, did so. But she was involved all her life in activities and exchanges with that community till the very end. Kind of the best of both worlds I guess.

CM, with expedition, did close my accouint and kept it closed. I reckon they were glad to see my back. Without the forums there were zero reasons to linger.

The priest who catechised me has been assigned to Nigeria, where he contracted and survived typhoid. My wife had a serious surgery which went well. We both had some foreboding about it, and this tiny women went through three units of blood. She is doing well though.

I do have some other good news, but it deserves a thread.

[English Rose]

My understanding is that websites that have subscriptions with auto-renewal are legally obligated to provide simple, easy-to-use mechanisms to defeat the auto-renewal. It appears that CM may not complying with the law

Now there's a "surprise".

[William St. Guthlac]

My understanding is that websites that have subscriptions with auto-renewal are legally obligated to provide simple, easy-to-use mechanisms to defeat the auto-renewal. It appears that CM may not complying with the law

Now there's a "surprise".

[Stargazer186k]

Very clever of them to slip the "cancel Premium" button under the available plans rather than under your current plan. Easy to overlook.  Does that actually cancel auto charges on your credit card?

[enchantmentadm]

Very clever of them to slip the "cancel Premium" button under the available plans rather than under your current plan. Easy to overlook.  Does that actually cancel auto charges on your credit card?

I didn't even know that they had a "cancel Premium" button. So apparently they are in compliance with the law, even though it may be easy to overlook. I remember when I canceled my auto-renew on Zoosk, the button was labeled "Cancel Subscription," which could easily lead one to believe that he or she is canceling the current subscription rather than future renewal. Very tricky. Once you click on the "Cancel Subscription" button, a message comes up that your current subscription will continue until the expiration date.

[English Rose]

How nice to see all these familiar faces. It has been too long. Some months back I gutted my office and in that effort lost my daily hangout for my desktop which is where I typically chatted with all of you. Missing Don so dearly. And missing all of like minded you. The world and its hatred for our beliefs gets more and more dismall all the time it seems. I am glad I stopped by. 

I turned off my auto renew on CM and dont pay any attention to it. 

What have I missed around here? Anyone have happy news?

It's lovely you're back Diane.  I've missed you and your posts.

I miss Don too.  I think it's a real testimony to his character that an English woman 5000 miles away from the Arizona cacti (that you can't shoot) misses him so very dearly.

[susanb]

How nice to see all these familiar faces. It has been too long. Some months back I gutted my office and in that effort lost my daily hangout for my desktop which is where I typically chatted with all of you. Missing Don so dearly. And missing all of like minded you. The world and its hatred for our beliefs gets more and more dismall all the time it seems. I am glad I stopped by. 

I turned off my auto renew on CM and dont pay any attention to it. 

What have I missed around here? Anyone have happy news?

It's lovely you're back Diane.  I've missed you and your posts.

I miss Don too.  I think it's a real testimony to his character that an English woman 5000 miles away from the Arizona cacti (that you can't shoot) misses him so very dearly.

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I miss Don too.....still offering prayers for his family members

[enchantmentadm]

It's lovely you're back Diane.  I've missed you and your posts.

I miss Don too.  I think it's a real testimony to his character that an English woman 5000 miles away from the Arizona cacti (that you can't shoot) misses him so very dearly.

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I miss Don too.....still offering prayers for his family members

I still feel a huge sense of loss as well. I pray for repose of his soul every day.

[James]

Yes, Don was a good chap.

[Jericho]

I miss Don as well.

Yes, Don was a good chap.

I agree. I miss him as well. He desired to created this new forum and I miss his wisdom