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My CM subscription auto-renewed a few days ago. So I guess I am stuck with them for another year. I realize this was a voluntary act. I could have taken off my credit card information, which would have prevented the auto-renew. But I can't help but have a little buyer's remorse. Every time, I say that this renewal will be the last one. I have been saying this for years. Maybe it is good that I still have some hope. But when is hope a false hope? I am more and more convinced that if there is a right person for me, she is not in my current location. I am praying about whether I should shoot the moon and go for something long distance. Perhaps I could participate in more Relate events and see what happens. I have tried long distance on and off and have had worse results with that than I have locally.  I have intensely mixed feelings about CM. It is the only dating site I have had any results with at all. But to echo the song, I still can't find what I'm looking for.

Armand,

More than 6 months ago, when my CM subscription was due to expire (and I had written Admin to remind them that I had asked to have the "auto renewal" turned off), they renewed my subscription anyway!!!    So I wrote Admin again, and told them that I had requested that the "auto renewal" be turned off, and asked for a full refund.  They refunded me, but the aggravation with their completely ignoring my request was a little unsettling.  My current subscription expires late next week; and 4+/- months ago, I wrote them to turn off the "auto renewal"; so I'll be watching to see if they do or don't automatically renew my subscription.  I've had enough.  Of late, I've been spending a lot more time in my sewing room doing something a lot more productive, and outside walking, instead of sitting like a lump on a log in front of the computer screen (ugh   ). I spend more than enough time at the computer at work... don't need nor want to spend more hours at the computer at home.

Also, back in January or February, while attending a Catholic Singles Rosary zoom presentation, the guest speaker (don't remember her name) mentioned that if you're not seeing / meeting anyone at your current church, go to another church (there's no law against doing so).  So back in March, I returned to the Byzantine Rite church, located a lot closer to where I live than the other more traditional Roman Rite church ... AND though it's a smaller congregation, they're extremely more open, friendly, warm, and welcoming, and many have been asking me how I've been doing (when I first came down here to Columbus from Cleveland years ago, it was this Byzantine Rite church which was recommended to me; so went there for about 5 years, but became a bit 'homesick' for the Latin Rite church).  All that said, there's a gent here (at the Byzantine Rite church) who's still single as far as I know.  I've asked some friends to corroborate this, his brother and sister-in-law are parishioners there, too; and have also asked a few of them to help with an introduction.  (I still don't have the nerve to walk up to this (or any) man, introduce myself, and strike up a conversation; partly because he's talking with others (in the social hall after Divine Liturgy), and I was taught from very young not to interrupt others.  Was also taught that a lady waits .... hence the arranging of an introduction.  We shall see what happens.

With that, is there another Catholic church nearby you where you could go to see a different "pool" of women?  This is what that guest speaker was encouraging us to do... go somewhere else.  Also, let as many of your friends and family know that you're looking for someone.  It was the guest speaker's contention that people always love to fix up (meddle   ) in others' lives ... especially if they're seemingly happily married.

Your idea of attending the CM Relate events is a good idea; I've been attending some of them; but have grown bored with them; because even though they all SAY you're not alone, I really AM alone, sitting in front of a computer screen, going nowhere.  I'm looking forward to meeting the gent this coming Sunday at church.

Here's wishing you a very Happy Easter Week, Armand ... and hope you find your match as soon as possible 

Thanks. Mary Alice. I can understand your frustration. My understanding is that websites that have subscriptions with auto-renewal are legally obligated to provide simple, easy-to-use mechanisms to defeat the auto-renewal. It appears that CM may not complying with the law. It is interesting that it was very easy to defeat the auto-renewal on Zoosk, Catholic Chemistry, and e-Harmony. 

This came up on a thread here a few months ago. I cannot remember where or when. So you will have to run a search. I vaguely remember someone saying that the way to defeat the auto-renewal on CM is simply to delete your credit card information. This way, they will not have a card to charge it to. You may want to do this in case they "forget" to turn off the auto-renewal again.

I go to different Catholic churches here but have not had much luck finding prospects there. I think it might help to join a group where you run into the same people all the time. We have a Byzantine parish, which I visit from time to time. In fact, I was just there for Good Friday and went three times during Lent for the Friday night "pre-sanctified" service. The liturgy is beautiful and it is warmer and friendlier than most Latin rite parishes. However, it is mostly families with young children. I am glad some people are having babies but I feel I would stand out like a sore thumb there being single if I joined the parish.

I have had friends who have tried to "fix me up." Unfortunately, the last two were fallen away Catholics, the first one an an atheist and the second an evangelical. I am still friends with the latter but I do not see her as a dating and marriage prospect because of the religious difference and the unannulled divorce.

I certainly understand the feeling of being alone, which is even worse when you see no end in sight. I cannot resolve the paradox of feeling alone while knowing that there are so many of us who are in the same boat.

Thanks again, Mary Alice. I hope your meeting with the gentleman goes well this Sunday. I wish you a very blessed Easter week and season as well.