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We are approaching two years since Catholic Match forums ended. I believe the date is May 18. How is everybody doing? Are you still on CM? I reluctantly renewed my membership for another year but sometimes wonder why. Apparently, they have dropped speed dating for no apparent reason and now have their own version of the Dating Game, which seems rather silly. I am grateful to still have this forum to keep in touch with old friends. But it seems that many have fallen by the wayside since the beginning. A lot of work went into this forum. Consequently, it is sad to see it so underused. Any ideas about how to give this forum a shot in the arm?
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Hi Armand! Great Post! Thank you for reminding me!
I have tried CM for almost three years but I had to give it up a week before Thanksgiving last year. I was a beta tester for the CM's Relate which I thought was a replacement of the forums. It is interesting to see other people on the video camera as some people I met on there also miss the old forums. Some of those people I met were the old CM forum lurkers.
This is forum is different compared to the old CM forums, yet the older CM forums had nasty users who said horrible things about other users. This is one reason why CatholicHangout exists
As for improving this forum, We are always looking for more members who want to join and contribute. This forum is designed to be a safe haven for all Catholics from secular social media. I will be looking for people at my local parish, or in my travels who want join this forum. I have been praying for other users to come to this forum. I will look for ways to promote this forum 
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Thanks, Joshua. I admit to not having tried many Relate activities. I feel that I already have enough scheduled activities. What I liked about the forums was that you could post whenever you wanted and did not have to schedule anything. I sometimes don't understand CM's decisions. I thought that speed dating was supposed to be the centerpiece of Relate but now it appears that they have dropped it entirely. Anyway, I would not necessarily rule out participating in Relate in the future.
I don't miss the nastiness that sometimes occurred on CM forums. I think there were a lot of frustrated people who were taking out their frustrations on others. I understand that this forum has a different focus.
It is not so much that this forum needs improvement as it needs more activity. If you could round up some new blood, that would be great.
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Yeah, but basically, who cares? This place is 100 x better!
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(05-17-2026, 08:16 AM)James Wrote: Yeah, but basically, who cares? This place is 100 x better!
It is in many ways but we just need more active members here.
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(05-17-2026, 03:26 PM)enchantmentadm Wrote: (05-17-2026, 08:16 AM)James Wrote: Yeah, but basically, who cares? This place is 100 x better!
It is in many ways but we just need more active members here.
I am studying with Father Mike ever morning so will try to add some contend
but for God's grace go I.... 
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I have been a little busy recently, but still check every once in a while. As for CM, I no longer subscribe.
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For me, the CM forums sometimes felt like being a spectator Roman Colosseum. Other times, we were answering dating the average run of the mill dating related questions (I cannot get a date, how do I <ABC> etc.). The last dating question I remembered before the forum went dark was ... "Should I tell my date I am in-between jobs?" (Head smack emoji here). Oddly enough, I knew at the back of my mind, a user would ask that question at some point.
As for CatholicHangout, we remain a Catholic alternative to secular social media. If you have any friends at your local parish, they are invited to join as well. I will be asking around my local parish as well.
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Thanks everyone for your responses. Doug, it was good to see you again. I think inviting other Catholics to become members is a great idea. There were a lot of negative things about CM forums but the one good thing was that there was always a steady stream of new people. Some were seen one or two times; others became regulars. Almost one month into my CM renewal, nothing has changed. I can understand why many did not renew. At least I can sniff out the scammers from a mile away. I recently saw a profile where she referred to her town as being in a different state than what was stated on her profile picture. She was gone within 24 hours. The more things change there, the more they remain the same.
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I've come off all dating sites and am much happier.
A way to invigorate this site would be the ability to discuss more controversial topics, including politics. There is so much going on in the world, I would find it helpful to be able to discuss with you guys. The discussions would HAVE to held in a respectful way. I wonder whether Armand is right and that CM was structured such that people took their frustrations out in the forums. As a European, I found the way they were moderated to be bizarre.
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(05-17-2026, 03:26 PM)enchantmentadm Wrote: (05-17-2026, 08:16 AM)James Wrote: Yeah, but basically, who cares? This place is 100 x better!
It is in many ways but we just need more active members here.
Agreed, Armand ... as it has been written before (paraphrasing), the harvest is plentiful, but the laborers are few! We need more peeps!
(05-20-2026, 03:15 AM)enchantmentadm Wrote: Thanks everyone for your responses. Doug, it was good to see you again. I think inviting other Catholics to become members is a great idea. There were a lot of negative things about CM forums but the one good thing was that there was always a steady stream of new people. Some were seen one or two times; others became regulars. Almost one month into my CM renewal, nothing has changed. I can understand why many did not renew. At least I can sniff out the scammers from a mile away. I recently saw a profile where she referred to her town as being in a different state than what was stated on her profile picture. She was gone within 24 hours. The more things change there, the more they remain the same.
Agreed, again Armand.... many CM male profiles, I'll take a look one day, and the next, they're gone, guessing that someone else reported them. Last August (2025), I got scammed by no less than 7 guys within 11 days! I said no more, M.A.!!! NO MORE!!!!   I didn't renew my subscription, and left town to go on a long-weekend's vacation to Florida! But silly me, after returning, I got drawn back in to CM with taking advantage of some of their trivia night events with CM Relate. But still, not much has changed; the scammers are out there. Ugh!  My current CM subscription expires on Monday (6/22), and I've turned off the auto-renewal. I wish them all the best!
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Every year I renew, I wonder why I did. I guess FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) is strong. But the irony is that when I see what I would have missed out on, it is usually absolutely nothing. There has probably not been one single new woman in my local queue in over a month. I was thinking today that maybe I should turn off my auto-renew. But then I thought, my membership is not up until next April and I have plenty of time. It is probably this line of thinking that has kept me stuck there. CM definitely knew what they were doing when they came up with the slogan "Find Your Forever."
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Talking of CM, and those who have migrated to here, has anyone heard of our friend and brother, William, the attorney from the Deep(?) South of the USA? He seems to have disappeared.
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He has not been seen here in quite a while. I hope he got his international marital issues straightened out and is enjoying married life.
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(06-20-2026, 09:36 AM)James Wrote: Talking of CM, and those who have migrated to here, has anyone heard of our friend and brother, William, the attorney from the Deep(?) South of the USA? He seems to have disappeared.
He last logged in about a month ago
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I realize the old CM forums were a place for people to go or answer an OP’s thread. There were great contributors of the forums. However, I do remember those ad nauseam dating threads from certain posters - should I send a message, what if he/she does not like me, how do I get a date, is a coffee date a date (a schism occurred afterward) what is the etiquette, I don’t sense a connection, and so forth.
However, CM made their decision to end their forum and we needed a good place to go which is one reason why CatholicHangout exist.
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(06-21-2026, 06:38 PM)Jericho Wrote: I realize the old CM forums were a place for people to go or answer an OP’s thread. There were great contributors of the forums. However, I do remember those ad nauseam dating threads from certain posters - should I send a message, what if he/she does not like me, how do I get a date, is a coffee date a date (a schism occurred afterward) what is the etiquette, I don’t sense a connection, and so forth.
However, CM made their decision to end their forum and we needed a good place to go which is one reason why CatholicHangout exist.
and, I for one, am grateful
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(06-20-2026, 09:36 AM)James Wrote: Talking of CM, and those who have migrated to here, has anyone heard of our friend and brother, William, the attorney from the Deep(?) South of the USA? He seems to have disappeared.
Hi, James,
Over the past couple / few years, he and I had occasion to talk (on the phone) and text; the last I heard, hopefully by now, he's married and together with his lady love and her little ones. There was a lot of "red tape" for him to cut through in order to get them together, understandably frustrating him no end. 
Interestingly enough, he crossed my mind a week ago, and I thought about texting him but got distracted and didn't follow through. I'll send him a text and see what happens; will report back here if he responds.
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